I honestly do not believe that we are required by religion to reconcile after adultery even if the unfaithful spouse is truly repentent (Matthew 5:32). They broke the sacred convenant by not forsaking all others and now we are permitted to leave. We are also permitted to chose to stay if we want. If someone wants to stay with a spouse that shows remorse with actions, then that is their choice. If they feel good about the choice to stay then I am happy for them. I truly believe God leaves the choice up to us. I believe filing for divorce due to infidelity also makes the faithful spouse eligible for remarriage without sin. I know catholics disagree with that, however; there is the potential for catholic annulment, which would also make remarriage okay.
So, assuming I’m right, if you have attracted a narcissist into your life, you may want to ask yourself how you are acting as a narcissist toward yourself . How are you neglecting yourself? How are you putting yourself down? In your own nice way, do you feel that you are better than others? Do you subconsciously put others down when you are feeling insecure about yourself? Not all the narcissistic traits may be mirrored in you. A good question to ask yourself is, What traits are the biggest problem for me, and how do I do that to myself? Then ask how you do it so subconsciously that you had to attract a narcissist to teach you a lesson.